Drinking a Glass of Poison and Waiting for the Other Person to Die - Holding a Grudge

“I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind”- Kahlil Gibran

Forgiveness is a concept many people are not willing to seize. Why should you forgive that evil person who caused you so much pain? Simple – the only person you hurt when you hold a feeling of resentment is yourself. When you refuse to let go and hold on to a grudge, the only person you truly hurt is yourself.

Tending a grudge is like arguing with a Pakistani traffic policeman. The more you do it, the worse things get. It won't just get worse with the connection you are having with the person you're holding a grudge with. It will also negatively change your well being. It will only give you stress and affect your physical and mental health.

When you are upset with another, heat about it, hold a grudge and constantly run the event through your mind, you are using up a huge amount of your personal energy.

Meanwhile, the person who triggered this grudge usually has no more thought about it and moves on. They don’t squander time or energy or even give it a second thought.  They consider they were right and frankly, as far as they are concerned that’s it, that’s all – period, not to forget their egoistic nature.  When you focus your energy on the grudge, you eventually draw more of this negativity into your life. You send a clear message to your subconscious side that this ill will is important to you. Always remember that your subconscious is your servant and it never fails to offer you with additional of whatsoever you focus your energies on.

Feelings of hatred and anger would be normal reactions for people in such situations. But if that feeling stays for a long time, it will burden you. Bearing a grudge will leave you carrying a very heavy luggage. And just like if you have been carrying it for a long time, there will come a time that you won't be able to hold it anymore. The load is just too much and you will give up. In this case, give up on life. Let this feeling linger for too long then you are already bearing a grudge on that someone. So how do you stop bearing a grudge?

Let go, forgive and learn each situation is intended to teach. Through forgiveness, you programme your subconscious to focus on the goals you desire and move forward. Refusing to let go is confrontation to what you don’t want and then attract more of whatever you are resisting.

Forgiving someone is not a simple task. It takes a lot of understanding of the other person on why he or she has done you wrong. You may agree or disagree with the reason but the chief idea here is that you forgive. You forgive not because of that person or your relationship, but you forgive for your own benefit - To live a happier life.

When you forgive, you get rid of the feeling of irritation with feelings of good will. You stop thinking about the state of affairs in the context of anger. By letting go of your annoyance, you also stop bearing a grudge. This vastly affects your physical and psychological health in a positive way. You are able to live a happier and healthier life.

A Sufi poet said:

“He who is not my friend- May God be his friend

And he who bears evil ill against me- May his joys increase

He who puts thorns in my way on account of enmity

May every flower that blossoms in the garden of his life be without thorns.”

Stop hurting yourself with negative feelings. Let it all go now!




Note: The information in this post is a combination of different articles related to human psychology and my own personal experiences. I hope this is helpful for each one of you and helps you to reflect into your inner soul to be a better and happier person.