Drinking a Glass of Poison and Waiting for the Other Person to Die - Holding a Grudge

“I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind”- Kahlil Gibran

Forgiveness is a concept many people are not willing to seize. Why should you forgive that evil person who caused you so much pain? Simple – the only person you hurt when you hold a feeling of resentment is yourself. When you refuse to let go and hold on to a grudge, the only person you truly hurt is yourself.

Tending a grudge is like arguing with a Pakistani traffic policeman. The more you do it, the worse things get. It won't just get worse with the connection you are having with the person you're holding a grudge with. It will also negatively change your well being. It will only give you stress and affect your physical and mental health.

When you are upset with another, heat about it, hold a grudge and constantly run the event through your mind, you are using up a huge amount of your personal energy.

Meanwhile, the person who triggered this grudge usually has no more thought about it and moves on. They don’t squander time or energy or even give it a second thought.  They consider they were right and frankly, as far as they are concerned that’s it, that’s all – period, not to forget their egoistic nature.  When you focus your energy on the grudge, you eventually draw more of this negativity into your life. You send a clear message to your subconscious side that this ill will is important to you. Always remember that your subconscious is your servant and it never fails to offer you with additional of whatsoever you focus your energies on.

Feelings of hatred and anger would be normal reactions for people in such situations. But if that feeling stays for a long time, it will burden you. Bearing a grudge will leave you carrying a very heavy luggage. And just like if you have been carrying it for a long time, there will come a time that you won't be able to hold it anymore. The load is just too much and you will give up. In this case, give up on life. Let this feeling linger for too long then you are already bearing a grudge on that someone. So how do you stop bearing a grudge?

Let go, forgive and learn each situation is intended to teach. Through forgiveness, you programme your subconscious to focus on the goals you desire and move forward. Refusing to let go is confrontation to what you don’t want and then attract more of whatever you are resisting.

Forgiving someone is not a simple task. It takes a lot of understanding of the other person on why he or she has done you wrong. You may agree or disagree with the reason but the chief idea here is that you forgive. You forgive not because of that person or your relationship, but you forgive for your own benefit - To live a happier life.

When you forgive, you get rid of the feeling of irritation with feelings of good will. You stop thinking about the state of affairs in the context of anger. By letting go of your annoyance, you also stop bearing a grudge. This vastly affects your physical and psychological health in a positive way. You are able to live a happier and healthier life.

A Sufi poet said:

“He who is not my friend- May God be his friend

And he who bears evil ill against me- May his joys increase

He who puts thorns in my way on account of enmity

May every flower that blossoms in the garden of his life be without thorns.”

Stop hurting yourself with negative feelings. Let it all go now!




Note: The information in this post is a combination of different articles related to human psychology and my own personal experiences. I hope this is helpful for each one of you and helps you to reflect into your inner soul to be a better and happier person. 

Revolution or same old drama?

Revolution Revolution Revolution

These are the words which are on the mouth of each Pakistani specially the youth. On this given day when "Father of the Nation" Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah was born, we should ask our self first; are we the nation whose ancestors gave everything which they had, from house to their children. Just for Pakistan. Today sadly saying sacrifices which our ancestors gave all have gone in vane. Today we talk about revolution but are not ready to bring revolution within our self. We as youth are not even ready to stop at a signal for 1 minute or even making an effort to dispose the waste material of our home. If we are not able to teach children picking up garbage in street we are also not making any effort to provide them with basic meal.


Revolution or same old drama?
Rally of Imran Khan which we witnessed today was an impressive show of peoples strength. It showed us that the young generation of Pakistan are alive (just for sake of jalsas which have concerts). Since spring this year PTI has emerged as a party which has attracted people from every corner. Top leadership which also now contains dry cleaned politicians speak about a revolution. A revolution that would wipe out corruption which they think is the root cause of evil in Pakistan.


But with all this, simple questions still remain to linger around. Questions which somewhere or the other have to be answered. 


A distinguished former Jamaati in the top leadership is PTI Vice President Ejaz Chaudhry who was ejected from the JI after facing accusations of corruption. He is now the PTI’s advisor on religious affairs and Imran Khan’s point person in the Punjab. Chaudhry is also key person of PTI’s youth wing, the Insaf Students Federation.  PTI remains close to former MMA partners the JI and JUI and also shares same ideology, often jointly arranging rallies. In 2009, Imran Khan piled praise on the JI’s then leader Qazi Hussain Ahmed at a seminar at the Lahore Press Club, referring to Ahmed as his “brother.”


Sharing extremist's ideology
More disturbing are the relations between the PTI and other fanatic organizations in Pakistan. Imran Khan individually visited the Darul-Uloom Haqqania in Akora Khattak in way to adharna (sit in) in Peshawar. The Darul-Uloom, an extremist seminary popularly known as “the University of Jihad,” is also accused of being the launching pad for former Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto’s assassination.


Moreover, in May this year Ejaz Chaudhury also was present in a rally with Hafiz Saeed, the head of Jamaat-ud-Dawa, the political arm of the banned terrorist outfit Lashkar-e-Tayyaba. The rally damned the killing of Osama bin Laden, and declared him a “Martyr of Islam.” Funeral prayers were duly offered.

The flags of the Sipah-e-SahabaPakistan (SSP) have also become a view seen at PTI rallies, some even featuring SSP-affiliated speakers. The SSP, a violently sectarian anti-Shia and anti-Christian organization, was banned as a terrorist group in 2002. SSP factions are clearly folding into the PTI while carrying their own vile agendas, as indicated by the presence of their distinct flags. PTI time in time out has shown links to right-wing extremist groups that Imran Khan rarely condemns their hateful activities in public. Unfortunately, he usually does not do so publicly.

1. Bombing of ashura procession in Karachi

2. Attack on christians in Gojra

3. Ruthless killing of Hazaras in Mastung

4. Killing of scouts in Karachi

5. Sucide bombing of mosques, imambarghas 

6. Killing of military personals.

On all these occasions PTI central leadership and Mr Revolution i.e. Mr Imran Khan remained quiet. Not a single statement against these actions. There are hardly any instances of the PTI directly condemning Pakistani terrorist groups.

Why not trying PTI?

Substantial thrust has built behind Imran Khan on the base of the thinking that everybody else has been tried, so why not the PTI? This is baloney, and perhaps the worst of all probable causes to vote for the PTI. If Pakistan’s supremacy is to be a rotating door where everyone gets a turn, then should the likes of the SSP and the TTP line up too? After all, they have never been tried in government either.

Conclusion

Vote for the PTI if it fits your attitude and values. But remember politics, and particularly is an intrinsically chaotic team sport. Even with a star player, the team and its strategies, alliances and associations matter.  And as it stands, Imran Khan is not politics of change its just politics as usual

Lessons yet to be Learnt

Raising the country's flag and even singing state anthem in schools became a crime for the separatists. Inter-provincial hatred escalated and killings of specifically Punjabis became common in a part of our country which we once called East Pakistan.

If we look back in time to see what Balochs were demanding that led to separatist movement and violence in the province, it would be easy to pin point that they were just asking for respect and equal rights. It is a bitter truth that the residents of Pakistan's most resourceful and least populated province are still living in the dark ages in the 21st century.

The Balochs, despite being fewer than the population of a single Pakistani city Karachi, are living without basic facilities such as access to proper health care, education, electricity, water and gas supply, despite being the key provider of many of these resources such as gas, coal, copper, gold and numerous other precious resources.

Born after creation of both Pakistan & Bangladesh I still carve for answers as to why did we lose one part of our country? Was it an outside hand as it is always involved or was it RAW and MOSAD who hatched conspiracies or was it something else.

Ethnic cleansing of Balochs and ruthless killing of minorities (Shias, Christians etc) was going and is still going on against the violation of international laws but the whole world, so called champions of democracy, so called champions of democracy and so called “Insaf Pasand Party” are silent and even the civilian government of Pakistan was not and is still doing anything to stop the carnage.

That also gives me the answer to the same question about Bangladesh. Reading Hammid ur Rahman commission report and other accounts as to what happened in 1971 across the country, makes me realize that there are thousands who have now become mothers and grandmothers, who were raped by the same people who had taken oath to protect them and the men who declared that they were Muslim brothers.

It is also a shame that the institution which has to give justice to ordinary citizen; remained quiet at the time of barbaric killing or ordinary Bengalis and still don’t give any heed to sectarian target killing whether ashura procession Karachi bombing in 2009 or killing of Hazara community.

It is said by many analyst that Pakistan rightly owns an apology to Bengali families who faced the ruthless and barbaric force of Government of Pakistan. I would say it’s time that the Government should learn from the past mistakes and render an apology to sectarian & religious minorities, to families which fell victim to operation carried out in Karachi in 90’s and to people of Balochistan who were not and still are not involved in any sort of activity against interest of Pakistan.

Long Live Pakistan

Thirty Lessons From Ashura

1. Align yourself with right no matter the cost.

2. Enjoin good and forbid evil.

3. Love those who are good and befriend yourself to them.

4. Do not be friends with those who do evil, are cruel or are foolish.

5. When you love someone, you should feel their pain and mourn their tragedies.

6. The more you love someone, the more you will feel for them.

7. You should love God and His messengers and guides more than you love yourself and your family.

8. There is nothing wrong with showing genuine emotion in response to oppression in public.

9. We should all fight oppression with whatever we have.

10. There is more than one way to fight; pick the one that suits the circumstances. Ask those who are wise about the right way.

11. Ask those who are wise about everything and follow them.

12. A follower should not only incline to his leader and listen to him, but reform his actions to be in accordance with his leader's. If he really loves him, he will work hard to avoid anything contrary to his leader's teachings. If he does not really love him, he is a hypocrite and offers lip service but will fail a rest test if it comes.

13. If people let the memory of injustice fade, it is easier for tyrants to carry it out again.

14. God protects His message so that we may know it.

15. Godly people make great sacrifices for God's cause.

16. The right often lies with the few rather than the many. Don't be afraid to be a minority.

17. Hijab is precious. Family is precious. Brave, loving men are precious. Women who speak up when necessary are precious.

18. Nothing is more precious than God.

19. The jihad of men and women is different, but we must all practice patience, forbearance, and willingness to forgive someone who is truly sorry.

20. The length of your life as a Muslim is less important than what you do with that time. It is better to die at the pinnacle of your faith than to live another moment on its decline. We should dedicate ourselves to the cause of God and increasing our faith.

21. Prayer is so important that even on a battlefield you must keep it.

22. Young and old alike can do great things or terrible things.

23. God has a plan.

24. Thirst is terrible. Do not anyone or thing go thirsty while you have the power to prevent it. When you drink, remember those who died thirsty because people prevented them from having it.

25. Silence or inaction can be VERY evil. You can be guilty without committing the action by letting it happen or deluding yourself that you can do nothing about it.

26. It is our duty to become educated and aware as much as possible. Ignorance is not bliss, it is sin if it is preventable.

27. We must be sensitive and compassionate toward the suffering of others. It is wrong to celebrate in the face of another's tragedy.

28. Do not let differences divide what the love of God can unite. Ashura is an occasion to be united in love of God and God's messengers and guides.

29. The one who sides with God can never be hopeless and the one who sides against God can never have hope.

30. The unrighteous seek to deceive or intimidated others to be in their ranks. Do not be deceived or intimidated.