Drinking a Glass of Poison and Waiting for the Other Person to Die - Holding a Grudge

“I have learned silence from the talkative, tolerance from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind”- Kahlil Gibran

Forgiveness is a concept many people are not willing to seize. Why should you forgive that evil person who caused you so much pain? Simple – the only person you hurt when you hold a feeling of resentment is yourself. When you refuse to let go and hold on to a grudge, the only person you truly hurt is yourself.

Tending a grudge is like arguing with a Pakistani traffic policeman. The more you do it, the worse things get. It won't just get worse with the connection you are having with the person you're holding a grudge with. It will also negatively change your well being. It will only give you stress and affect your physical and mental health.

When you are upset with another, heat about it, hold a grudge and constantly run the event through your mind, you are using up a huge amount of your personal energy.

Meanwhile, the person who triggered this grudge usually has no more thought about it and moves on. They don’t squander time or energy or even give it a second thought.  They consider they were right and frankly, as far as they are concerned that’s it, that’s all – period, not to forget their egoistic nature.  When you focus your energy on the grudge, you eventually draw more of this negativity into your life. You send a clear message to your subconscious side that this ill will is important to you. Always remember that your subconscious is your servant and it never fails to offer you with additional of whatsoever you focus your energies on.

Feelings of hatred and anger would be normal reactions for people in such situations. But if that feeling stays for a long time, it will burden you. Bearing a grudge will leave you carrying a very heavy luggage. And just like if you have been carrying it for a long time, there will come a time that you won't be able to hold it anymore. The load is just too much and you will give up. In this case, give up on life. Let this feeling linger for too long then you are already bearing a grudge on that someone. So how do you stop bearing a grudge?

Let go, forgive and learn each situation is intended to teach. Through forgiveness, you programme your subconscious to focus on the goals you desire and move forward. Refusing to let go is confrontation to what you don’t want and then attract more of whatever you are resisting.

Forgiving someone is not a simple task. It takes a lot of understanding of the other person on why he or she has done you wrong. You may agree or disagree with the reason but the chief idea here is that you forgive. You forgive not because of that person or your relationship, but you forgive for your own benefit - To live a happier life.

When you forgive, you get rid of the feeling of irritation with feelings of good will. You stop thinking about the state of affairs in the context of anger. By letting go of your annoyance, you also stop bearing a grudge. This vastly affects your physical and psychological health in a positive way. You are able to live a happier and healthier life.

A Sufi poet said:

“He who is not my friend- May God be his friend

And he who bears evil ill against me- May his joys increase

He who puts thorns in my way on account of enmity

May every flower that blossoms in the garden of his life be without thorns.”

Stop hurting yourself with negative feelings. Let it all go now!




Note: The information in this post is a combination of different articles related to human psychology and my own personal experiences. I hope this is helpful for each one of you and helps you to reflect into your inner soul to be a better and happier person. 

Revolution or same old drama?

Revolution Revolution Revolution

These are the words which are on the mouth of each Pakistani specially the youth. On this given day when "Father of the Nation" Quaid-e-Azam Muhammad Ali Jinnah was born, we should ask our self first; are we the nation whose ancestors gave everything which they had, from house to their children. Just for Pakistan. Today sadly saying sacrifices which our ancestors gave all have gone in vane. Today we talk about revolution but are not ready to bring revolution within our self. We as youth are not even ready to stop at a signal for 1 minute or even making an effort to dispose the waste material of our home. If we are not able to teach children picking up garbage in street we are also not making any effort to provide them with basic meal.


Revolution or same old drama?
Rally of Imran Khan which we witnessed today was an impressive show of peoples strength. It showed us that the young generation of Pakistan are alive (just for sake of jalsas which have concerts). Since spring this year PTI has emerged as a party which has attracted people from every corner. Top leadership which also now contains dry cleaned politicians speak about a revolution. A revolution that would wipe out corruption which they think is the root cause of evil in Pakistan.


But with all this, simple questions still remain to linger around. Questions which somewhere or the other have to be answered. 


A distinguished former Jamaati in the top leadership is PTI Vice President Ejaz Chaudhry who was ejected from the JI after facing accusations of corruption. He is now the PTI’s advisor on religious affairs and Imran Khan’s point person in the Punjab. Chaudhry is also key person of PTI’s youth wing, the Insaf Students Federation.  PTI remains close to former MMA partners the JI and JUI and also shares same ideology, often jointly arranging rallies. In 2009, Imran Khan piled praise on the JI’s then leader Qazi Hussain Ahmed at a seminar at the Lahore Press Club, referring to Ahmed as his “brother.”


Sharing extremist's ideology
More disturbing are the relations between the PTI and other fanatic organizations in Pakistan. Imran Khan individually visited the Darul-Uloom Haqqania in Akora Khattak in way to adharna (sit in) in Peshawar. The Darul-Uloom, an extremist seminary popularly known as “the University of Jihad,” is also accused of being the launching pad for former Prime Minister Benazir Bhutto’s assassination.


Moreover, in May this year Ejaz Chaudhury also was present in a rally with Hafiz Saeed, the head of Jamaat-ud-Dawa, the political arm of the banned terrorist outfit Lashkar-e-Tayyaba. The rally damned the killing of Osama bin Laden, and declared him a “Martyr of Islam.” Funeral prayers were duly offered.

The flags of the Sipah-e-SahabaPakistan (SSP) have also become a view seen at PTI rallies, some even featuring SSP-affiliated speakers. The SSP, a violently sectarian anti-Shia and anti-Christian organization, was banned as a terrorist group in 2002. SSP factions are clearly folding into the PTI while carrying their own vile agendas, as indicated by the presence of their distinct flags. PTI time in time out has shown links to right-wing extremist groups that Imran Khan rarely condemns their hateful activities in public. Unfortunately, he usually does not do so publicly.

1. Bombing of ashura procession in Karachi

2. Attack on christians in Gojra

3. Ruthless killing of Hazaras in Mastung

4. Killing of scouts in Karachi

5. Sucide bombing of mosques, imambarghas 

6. Killing of military personals.

On all these occasions PTI central leadership and Mr Revolution i.e. Mr Imran Khan remained quiet. Not a single statement against these actions. There are hardly any instances of the PTI directly condemning Pakistani terrorist groups.

Why not trying PTI?

Substantial thrust has built behind Imran Khan on the base of the thinking that everybody else has been tried, so why not the PTI? This is baloney, and perhaps the worst of all probable causes to vote for the PTI. If Pakistan’s supremacy is to be a rotating door where everyone gets a turn, then should the likes of the SSP and the TTP line up too? After all, they have never been tried in government either.

Conclusion

Vote for the PTI if it fits your attitude and values. But remember politics, and particularly is an intrinsically chaotic team sport. Even with a star player, the team and its strategies, alliances and associations matter.  And as it stands, Imran Khan is not politics of change its just politics as usual

Lessons yet to be Learnt

Raising the country's flag and even singing state anthem in schools became a crime for the separatists. Inter-provincial hatred escalated and killings of specifically Punjabis became common in a part of our country which we once called East Pakistan.

If we look back in time to see what Balochs were demanding that led to separatist movement and violence in the province, it would be easy to pin point that they were just asking for respect and equal rights. It is a bitter truth that the residents of Pakistan's most resourceful and least populated province are still living in the dark ages in the 21st century.

The Balochs, despite being fewer than the population of a single Pakistani city Karachi, are living without basic facilities such as access to proper health care, education, electricity, water and gas supply, despite being the key provider of many of these resources such as gas, coal, copper, gold and numerous other precious resources.

Born after creation of both Pakistan & Bangladesh I still carve for answers as to why did we lose one part of our country? Was it an outside hand as it is always involved or was it RAW and MOSAD who hatched conspiracies or was it something else.

Ethnic cleansing of Balochs and ruthless killing of minorities (Shias, Christians etc) was going and is still going on against the violation of international laws but the whole world, so called champions of democracy, so called champions of democracy and so called “Insaf Pasand Party” are silent and even the civilian government of Pakistan was not and is still doing anything to stop the carnage.

That also gives me the answer to the same question about Bangladesh. Reading Hammid ur Rahman commission report and other accounts as to what happened in 1971 across the country, makes me realize that there are thousands who have now become mothers and grandmothers, who were raped by the same people who had taken oath to protect them and the men who declared that they were Muslim brothers.

It is also a shame that the institution which has to give justice to ordinary citizen; remained quiet at the time of barbaric killing or ordinary Bengalis and still don’t give any heed to sectarian target killing whether ashura procession Karachi bombing in 2009 or killing of Hazara community.

It is said by many analyst that Pakistan rightly owns an apology to Bengali families who faced the ruthless and barbaric force of Government of Pakistan. I would say it’s time that the Government should learn from the past mistakes and render an apology to sectarian & religious minorities, to families which fell victim to operation carried out in Karachi in 90’s and to people of Balochistan who were not and still are not involved in any sort of activity against interest of Pakistan.

Long Live Pakistan

Thirty Lessons From Ashura

1. Align yourself with right no matter the cost.

2. Enjoin good and forbid evil.

3. Love those who are good and befriend yourself to them.

4. Do not be friends with those who do evil, are cruel or are foolish.

5. When you love someone, you should feel their pain and mourn their tragedies.

6. The more you love someone, the more you will feel for them.

7. You should love God and His messengers and guides more than you love yourself and your family.

8. There is nothing wrong with showing genuine emotion in response to oppression in public.

9. We should all fight oppression with whatever we have.

10. There is more than one way to fight; pick the one that suits the circumstances. Ask those who are wise about the right way.

11. Ask those who are wise about everything and follow them.

12. A follower should not only incline to his leader and listen to him, but reform his actions to be in accordance with his leader's. If he really loves him, he will work hard to avoid anything contrary to his leader's teachings. If he does not really love him, he is a hypocrite and offers lip service but will fail a rest test if it comes.

13. If people let the memory of injustice fade, it is easier for tyrants to carry it out again.

14. God protects His message so that we may know it.

15. Godly people make great sacrifices for God's cause.

16. The right often lies with the few rather than the many. Don't be afraid to be a minority.

17. Hijab is precious. Family is precious. Brave, loving men are precious. Women who speak up when necessary are precious.

18. Nothing is more precious than God.

19. The jihad of men and women is different, but we must all practice patience, forbearance, and willingness to forgive someone who is truly sorry.

20. The length of your life as a Muslim is less important than what you do with that time. It is better to die at the pinnacle of your faith than to live another moment on its decline. We should dedicate ourselves to the cause of God and increasing our faith.

21. Prayer is so important that even on a battlefield you must keep it.

22. Young and old alike can do great things or terrible things.

23. God has a plan.

24. Thirst is terrible. Do not anyone or thing go thirsty while you have the power to prevent it. When you drink, remember those who died thirsty because people prevented them from having it.

25. Silence or inaction can be VERY evil. You can be guilty without committing the action by letting it happen or deluding yourself that you can do nothing about it.

26. It is our duty to become educated and aware as much as possible. Ignorance is not bliss, it is sin if it is preventable.

27. We must be sensitive and compassionate toward the suffering of others. It is wrong to celebrate in the face of another's tragedy.

28. Do not let differences divide what the love of God can unite. Ashura is an occasion to be united in love of God and God's messengers and guides.

29. The one who sides with God can never be hopeless and the one who sides against God can never have hope.

30. The unrighteous seek to deceive or intimidated others to be in their ranks. Do not be deceived or intimidated.

Humans or Not? Part 2

Pakistanis of all supporting and spiritual persuasions were uniformly angered by the disastrous death of their soldiers caused by an arbitrary air attack by the Nato forces. Pakistani soldiers, posted at a boundary post in Mohmand region, were ruthlessly attacked by Nato planes and helicopters killing 24 and injuring several more.

While this outbreak of sorrow is explicable and defensible, I wonder as to why other acts of violence against sectarian minorities in Pakistan have not stimulated the same grief and rage that we are witnessing today

The purpose here is to spot out the lack of or, at best, muted response to the ridiculous brutality committed against sectarian minorities in Pakistan by those animals who call themselves pious Muslims.

September 2011 when 29 Shias from Quetta’s Hazara community were killed in a intentional assault. They were going to Iran in a bus that was stoped near Mustang by armed militants who killed 29 while seriously injured several others. Compared to the anger and grief over the death of 24 soldiers, the reaction to Hazara murders has been silent at best. The list of community leaders from Punjab and Sindh who visited Quetta to condole with the Hazaras is very small and did not include any typical politician. Not even 50 students from a Punjab-based University demonstrated in harmony with the Shias of Quetta even when Shia academics were being killed by the militants belonging to banned outfits (Professor Danish Alam). However, thousands marched in Lahore today for the slain soldiers while being led by their professors.

And how to forget the barbaric attack on procession of Ashura in 2009. This leads me to a question not about our patriotism but about our religion. Are we correct in labeling ourselves as MUSLIMS or even HUMANS???

Countless in Pakistan believe that the Nato’s attack in Mohmand is an assault on Pakistan’s independence. If autonomy implies “having supreme, independent power over a geographic area” then Pakistan has lost sovereignty in most of its areas including majority of Balochistan and KP. Hundreds of Shia victims are proof that the State has lost control and is unable to neutralize banned outfits. This again leads me to a question, 

If Govt of Pakistan and our security agencies are unable to control these outfits, should we as ordinary citizens think that these untamed brutal animals wearing mask of Muslims are getting support from people belonging to Government and security agencies?????

Latest NATO strike

Pakistan is annoyed at the U.S. for by chance or intentionally killing 24 of its soldiers in a helicopter incident along the Afghanistan border. It’s certainly angry enough to cut off NATO supply routes for the war and order the U.S. out of its major Pakistani base for the drone war. But it’s not angry enough to stop U.S. drones and other planes from flying over its territory — which is one of the only steps the Pakistanis can take that really would mess up America’s shadow war on its turf.

Usually, Pakistan just threatens to kick U.S. aircraft out of Shamsi. This time, they’ve sent the U.S. an expulsion notice: clear out in 15 days.

But it’s not like giving up Shamsi means the drones bundle up and fly home. Most likely, they’ll travel across the Afghanistan border, for launch pads purpose for drones and other U.S. warplanes.

If the Pakistanis reject the U.S. its airspace, though, that’s a much bigger deal. Operationally, Pakistan army would have to move in anti-aircraft guns to challenge any drone or war planes which constantly intrude Pakistani air space. And such a move is not on cards after looking at past 10 years

But it would mean that the U.S. is actively prosecuting a war on Pakistani soil against the wishes of the Pakistani government or is it with the wishes of Islamabad?

But even if the Pakistanis aren’t keeping U.S. aircraft out of their skies, kicking American functioning out of Shamsi still carries danger for them. Suppose that expelling the U.S. from Shamsi is intended to show Pakistani citizens that their government is standing up to Washington. But the next time U.S. drones attack the tribal areas, they’ll make the Pakistani government look powerless.

Incident at Numaish

Pakistan’s greatest enemy today is the enemy within. Heart breaking scenes were witnessed on funeral of the two young volunteer scouts i.e. Syed Azhar Hussain and Syed Zainul Abdin who were shot dead by people returning from rally of banned outfit.

Major questions arise after such incident. Firstly who approved a banned outfit to take out rally in open? Secondly if they succeeded in taking out such a rally; what were our so called security agencies doing?

Time in and time out this banned outfit has proved that they are and never were in favor of a peaceful Pakistan. Their ancestors at time of creation of Pakistan opposed an independent sovereign state for Muslims in South Asia.

Incident which took place at Numaish is a clear indication that there are culprit people who have soft corner for this fanatic ideology which believes that nobody accept them are pious Muslims. It is time that the government also realizes that by announcing monetary compensations isn’t the replacement for people who have lost their loved ones. What these people who have been suppressed want is justice to be done with those who are constantly killing innocent people just because they believe in some different sect.

And justice would require our judicial system to not let these animals run freely if they are caught.

Message of Karbala

In the Name of God the Merciful the Compassionate

“And do not speak of those who are slain in Allah’s way as dead; nay they are alive, but you do not perceive.”

Ashura the day, on which the martyrs of Karbala drew with their living the ineffaceable line between faith and disbelief, between truth and falsehood, between justice and tyranny, and between those who are really alive and between those whose conscience is dead although they do not perceive. In the light of the verse that we quoted to you above, it is the remembrance of the martyrs that has saved the living from becoming conscientiously dead, as is the case with societies devoid of the concept of martyrdom or the sense to commemorate those who sacrificed their life to keep humanitarian values alive.

In Islam revolutions as well as political and social movements throughout history have carried messages and ideals which have been usually limited to specific time, place and circumstances. But the uprising of Imam Hussein (a.s.) and Karbala brings everlasting messages for the entire humanity. The ideals of this glorious and unique uprising are shining like a bright light for mankind showing the way towards prosperity in life and salvation in the hereafter. The emphasis is on freedom in Islam.

Humans or Not?

From suicide bombings to killing innocent children going to schools in vans & than moving to streets of Karachi where killing took place as goats were being slaughtered. Now we have floods. Loss which is in process of being estimation and people without shelter and food. And yet people busy in their own life as nothing has happened.

I know and I have also heard that everybody is trying to earn their own livelihood in these tough conditions. But does that mean that we don't even bother to think about the misery which these people are facing????

I agree that government is responsible to respond and out government isn't capable of doing so, but does that mean we should leave the suffering to suffer more???

Are we living in jungles of Africa where the mighty snatches its part while rest share the remains? and those who aren't lucky enough become the pray?????

Taliban's Shameless activities

By attacking a school van, taliban the so called followers of islam have reached the lowest level which mankind can get to. The boys and girls, 14 in all, were going from a village in Khyber Agency to their school in Peshawar when the attackers opened fire on them. The truth is that the Taliban have taken to killing children because they are getting desperate. Their support among the people is shrinking.
Taliban are a gang of fascist thugs who show themselves as freedom fighters.But it is important to remember that people who support them and share the same ideology but dont practice it openly are the ones who are equally involved in all crimes commited by taliban , try to distinguish between the “good” Taliban and the “bad” Taliban. The Taliban represent the worst in human nature & damage the name of Islam & in so doing the reputation of Pakistan.

Suffering

Almost three weeks after a powerful earthquake and tsunami devastated towns and lives along Japan’s northeast coast.. On other side of globe in Libya, suffering of mankind continues. This time not because of natural disasters but by hands of humans themselves.

Yourself

It is better to conquer yourself than to win a

thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot

be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven

or hell

Happiness

Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you

Gift

Everyone is gifted - but some people never open their package...

Anger

Temper: a quality that at critical moments brings out the best in steel and the worst in people.